this man is my fucking president oh my god
David Yates’ most vivid memory of Emma is watching her suddenly let go of her steely professionalism and for once just be young and free. They were filming a death scene from Hallows Part 2 on a freezing-cold beach in Wales. The actors were miserable, especially Emma, who hates the cold and dislikes getting wet even more. But out of nowhere, he recalls, “she ran into the icy water and stood there, holding herself against the waves with her arms outstretched, just laughing.” In that brief moment he got a sense of what it must be like to have a multibillion-dollar industry dependent on your every move and be only nineteen years old. -Vogue, July 2011
So, yeah, that first image is from a European Sony ad and I don’t know about you BUT IT CREEPS ME OUT. Ignoring the skeevy implications (woman’s body is a plaything for men, etc) it’s also just CREEPY AS HELL. Like “this is actually the new Silent Hill design” creepy.
So I decided to make it SUPER RIDICULOUS. If more boobs = OMG SEXIER OBVIOUSLY, then mine must be HELEN OF TROY LEVELS OF THE PERFECT WOMAN, RIGHT?! Line up, fellas!
oh my god marry me
Really, Sony? Really?
son: mom, i’m gay.
me: thank you for telling me, i still love you no matter what. now what do you want for dinner?
AND THAT WOULD BE IT. THAT’S THE END. I WOULDN’T MAKE HIM WATCH GLEE WITH ME. I WOULDN’T SHIP HIM WITH HIS FRIENDS. I WOULD SUPPORT HIM AND THEN THINGS WOULD GO AS NORMAL. BECAUSE TREATING YOUR HOMOSEXUAL CHILD LIKE A TOY DOES NOT MAKE HIM/HER EQUAL, IT STILL SEPARATES THEM FROM EVERYONE ELSE. I WOULD HOPE YOU WOULD TREAT YOUR OWN SON AS A PERSON AND NOT LIKE A CHARACTER ON TELEVISION.
No, I think this is doing it all wrong as well. Your son is part of a culturally oppressed minority. He is the direct recipient of a great deal of societal taboo. Even if in his home/social life he feels no ill-will, even if he’s never bullied, he is still steeped in a society filled with negativity. How can he not internalize at least some of that? And how is he supposed to feel that you’re a person who he can vent to about these feelings, if at his big coming out all he got was a “what do you want for dinner”? It tells him that his plight is in his head; it just reinforces that any discomfort he feels with himself is unwarranted or aberrant: this is the same mentality that leads to racial “color blindness.” So no, do not treat your children like toys. Do not expect your son to suddenly “gay it up” so he can meet some perverse stereotype, or fulfill a bizarre vicarious “gay bff” role. But let him know if he wants to watch Glee with you, that’s cool. Let him know that if he has interest in his friends that you’re more than happy to gossip about it and/or give advice. Let him know if he wants to go fashion shopping with you, or any other stereotyped activity, that he is more than welcome to do so. Talk to him about these things. Because fronting an image of it being No Big Deal - when societally, unfortunate as it is, it still certainly is - is helping no one.
Pretending nothing has changed is foolish, and impossible. Things *have* changed. But they are not bad changes, and he needs to know that. Maintaining some sort of quasi-status quo is just heteronormative bullshit. Make sure your son KNOWS that he is loved and welcome, no matter how he chooses to express himself. Don’t make being gay his defining characteristic: but recognize it’s equally hurtful to pretend it’s not a characteristic at all.
Tl;dr — Tumblr really needs to learn nuance and gradation sometimes.